Monday, March 31, 2008
be careful what you wish for.
I have not taken any photos since Easter. Bad mommy. So, here is a photo taken Christmas 2006 for our holiday card, just to tie the grandparents over until I get the camera out this week sometime!
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Dr. Laura Pasternak, M.D. 1954 - 2008
When Dylan was an infant around 9 months old, he began having numerous ear infections that led us to her office over and over again. During a particularly bad infection and while we were at her office being seen, she took time to call the most reputable pediatric ENT in our area to have him see Dylan the next day. Had we called on our own to get that same appointment, it would have taken months as specialist pediatric doctors are in such high demand. Dylan was seen the next day, and two days later we were at the outpatient center for him to receive ear tubes. The ENT surgeon told us after seeing the infection in Dylan's left ear, it was so horrible that it was beginning to affect his mastoid bone, which can ultimately result in permanent hearing loss and a host of other lifelong problems. They were able to put the tubes in and relieve his pain, and we believe this very well could have saved his hearing. Had we been made to wait a long time to see the ENT or have the procedure for Dylan, who knows how much worse the infection could have become or what could have happened to Dylan's hearing. Not to mention how much longer he would have been in horrible pain with infection after infection. The tubes are now out, but they did their job perfectly and we're so thankful for the care he received.
A few weeks after the procedure, I wrote Dr. Pasternak a letter thanking her for taking the time to make that call to the ENT for us. She didn't have to do that, and many doctors wouldn't have. She was just an amazing doctor in that way. I'm so glad we had that opportunity to thank her and let her know her efforts did not go unappreciated.
Her cancer went into remission until three years ago, and then she was told she had six months to live. She did everything she could to outlive those statistics and help prepare her medical practice and her family (including her three teenage children) for her departure.
I attended her service today and heard stories about her amazing life. I wish I could list her many accomplishments here, I could write all day. What a life! In 1972, she was one of the top 25 swimmers in the world, missing the 1972 Munich Olympic team by 1/10th of a second. She has traveled and lived all over the world to give medical care to underpriveledged children, and worked on movements to help end apartheid and free Nelson Mandela. She even helped work her way through school by working as a laborer for a steel mill!
I heard her husband talk about his love for her, I heard her children speak in awe of her perserverance. I heard her fellow physicians' admiration for her, and I realize how many lives she touched and inspired. The church was full of patients like me, whose children she has helped and lives she has changed.
We will miss you Dr. Pasternak. May you rest in peace.
Friday, March 28, 2008
so you want me to learn some sign language?
And there are boogers aplenty at our house right now. Logan is cutting his two year molars and he's one big crying, whining snotty boy who won't eat or sleep. I'd post a photo but its not pretty.
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We had our county early intervention services come back out this week and reevaluate Logan for speech delay. And again they told us he is right on the border of being delayed enough (by their standards) in order to qualify. They very reluctantly agreed to qualify him, because I think the lady knew if she didn't, Andrew was going to hunt her down and slash her tires. They'll come back on April 9th and we'll come up with a monthly schedule of speech therapy for him. We are seeing slight progress each week (of course we didn't tell them this) and he is signing 'please' and 'thank you' consistently.
Of course with the mood this teething has put him in, I wouldn't be surprised if he figures out how to give us the finger real soon.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
wild kingdom
Anyway.
2:01 a.m. last night. Andrew flies down the stairs in his underwear, and finds a weapon. A golf club. And if any of you have witnessed my husbands golf game, you'll agree a club in his hand could be fatal. He goes onto the screen porch and finds not a raccoon, but a possum. A snarling nasty old possum, looking for an all you can eat buffet of Purina Cat Chow. He pokes at it with the club. It growls and backs up into a corner. The dog is inside going wild. He finally got it to leave. I don't know what probably scared it more - the psychotic frothing dog, or Andrew's 6 foot frame wearing his skivvies flailing a golf club in the air.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
i get by with a little help from my friends.
Almost all of us have had another child somewhere along the line, and those children are going to grow up knowing each other just like our older children do. Most of the older children will be starting kindergarten in the fall, and I'm sure we'll all share the joys and tears together. Through the years there will be so many milestones to share.
These women make me laugh. They inspire me with all sorts of ideas. Every single person in our group brings so much to the table. When someone is going through a hard time, everyone else is there to pick that person up and help them through.
Today, quite a few of us were able to get together and let our kids play. And even through the chaos that just happens naturally when kids run amok, there is just such a sense of "we're all in this parenting thing together". There is no judgement among us. This parenting job can be so hard, and many times these women have rescued my sanity over and over.
These aren't friends that knew me before I was married, or attended our wedding, or roomed with me in college, or went to my high school. But these last five years of my life have brought so many profound changes, and I'm so thankful to have had these 'new mom' friends to enjoy the ride and become such a presence in my life, and in the life of my family.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Hopping down the bunny trail...
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Thursday, March 20, 2008
Just a sampling...
D: (watching old school cartoons like Quick Draw McGraw and Pink Panther on Boomerang) "Mommy, why don't their cars have seatbelts?"
M: "Well, back then it wasn't against the law to not wear your seatbelt. They didn't have car seats either."
D: "Mommy, did you you used to watch this cartoon when you were a little boy?"
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D: "When I get big enough, I want to get a space suit and a space ship."
M: "Okay, sounds great."
D: "Me and Daddy can go to outer space and fight the aliens in Mars. Is Daddy big enough to go to outer space? Is he fourteen yet?"
M: "Oh, mommies don't go to outer space?"
D: "Well, I guess you can come. Does Grandpa Joe know how to fly to outer space?"
M: "No, Grandpa Joe knows how to fly airplanes. You have to go to astronaut school if you want to learn how to fly space ships."
D: "Where do we buy a space ship?"
M: "I'm not sure, we'll have to look it up on the internet."
D: "That's okay. Daddy can build one. He can get a motor and a gas tank."
D: "And we'll have to get a dog space suit for Bella."
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
the mailman brought a smile today
Thanks Grandma Celia and Grandpa George for all the books, candy, toys and these beautiful Easter cookies.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
all quacked up
Today at Costco while trying to wrestle the kids and groceries into the car, I exclaimed "Oy Vey!" and Dylan asked me why I was speaking Spanish.
Also, twice in the past two days, Dylan has misbehaved and blamed it on Tom. Tom is Dylan's imaginary friend who came to live with us when Dylan was three. Tom has a flock of ducks (29 of them to be exact), and they all go everywhere we go. If Tom keeps doing bad things, he and his feathered friends are going to get evicted very soon.
PS - We're pretty sure Logan just said "Obama".
getting ready for the real thing
On Sunday, we went to one of our very favorite parks to burn some energy.
Monday, March 17, 2008
CNN seemed a little gay today.
Can you spot the fake headline? It’s funny that with most of the real headers you could easily transition each story together with the segue “in a related story…”
OK so maybe its 15% now.
So you think you had a bad day?
Many years from now.
Will you still be sending me a valentine
Birthday greetings bottle of wine.
No...but you will be sending her $50M.
Speaking of single men...
This weekend I played "single dad" to the boys as Michelle went out to play with her girl friend for the weekend. I took the boys to IHOP for pancake dinner.
When did IHOP become so depressing. Is it just an early Saturday Evening thing? There were maybe 5 parties in the place. Two of them older gentlemen, eating alone widower I thought. Three others looked like me, a guy with his kids eating pancakes for dinner. But I had the only wedding ring visible. The music was awful. Gloria Estefan’s “How did I lose you now” or something of that sort was followed by a constant string of depressing ballads of love lost. Had I found the secret burial place of the single dad?
One of the guys asked how old my kids were in an attempt at male bonding. He stated we were in the same boat, wrangling pre-schoolers by ourselves. I didn’t want to dispatch him further in despair by acknowledging the fact that I was in the “Just visiting” corner of his monopoly board of life.
The pancakes were awesome, and for $13 I got a decent sized and modestly tasty steak with serviceable fried shrimp, hash browns and Italian wedding soup. Logan enjoyed his pancakes and learned what Tabasco is.
No children were hurt in the creation of this post. This is my first post on this blog.
Sunday, March 16, 2008
the best part about going away is coming home
It was all so nice. Quiet. Relaxing. But today, my car could not drive fast enough to get back to these boys.
Friday, March 14, 2008
embarassing moment #724
Guess its time to invest in some Crest White Strips. Anyone have any experience with which of those products work best?
PS - I got my child a dog toy today at Wegman's. Yes, I did. Logan is obsessed with balls, and he became fixated on this plush dog toy soccer ball when I was loading dog food into the cart. It was keeping him occupied and let me finish my shopping. I tried to put it back but it was too late, he had claimed it. He slept with it at nap today. A dog toy. Yep. That's some good parenting right there! Dylan went thru a phase when he was two where he slept with (unlit) candles and chapstick, so I guess a dog toy isn't all that bad.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
go sell crazy somewhere else. we're all stocked up.
"Yes, I'm calling to find out if our child is covered for certain services for developmental delays."
Pause. "Well, was your child in an accident?"
"No. No accident. He is just showing some delays in certain areas and we're trying to get him some help."
"Well, therapy for developmental delays are not covered in your plan."
"So what you're telling me is, if our child fell out of a window, hit his head and was unable to speak, we'd be covered. It our child was popping pills, bulemic or wanted to get some Viagra, we'd be covered. But developmental delays clearly don't fall under the parameters of such serious conditions."
Silence.
"I'm sorry, I don't write the plans. I would encourage you to contact your state resources and see if they might offer you some services."
"Oh, believe me. We are going down that path already. Call me crazy. I just thought that perhaps our health insurance might cover some services that would be helpful to our child's development."
Is it me or is this just crazy? Perhaps if more developmental therapies were covered and were more available to more children, there wouldn't be so many children struggling later in school and in life.
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
a long but happy day
Since we were in Baltimore already, we took advantage and visited the awesome Maryland Science Center. We had a blast, and I think you'll see from these photos, so did the boys! I love going to these types of places during the week vs. the weekends - deserted, staff is friendlier, and your child gets long turns at all their favorite exhibits.
Dylan mans the submarine (learning how to dive, perhaps?
smokin' baby
the scientist at work
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
its not so easy the second time around....
We go to Logan's playgroup on Tuesday mornings every week. I think its really important to have Logan in a consistent playgroup since he's not in daycare. It teaches him how to interact socially with other kids his age. The kids are usually pretty nice to each other, minus a few minor things now and then. But today, Logan was so aggressive towards the other children. Up until today, almost all of his hitting and pushing has been directed at me or Andrew, or Dylan. But today at playgroup, he was beating up on all the kids. Pushing them down, hitting them in the face.... I must have put him in time out five times in 1 1/2 hours. And he'd cry while in time out facing the wall in the corner, and then come out of time out and do it all over again. The time outs so far aren't teaching him that certain behavior is not acceptable. He's just too young to make that connection. And its so frustrating for me. I know I have to keep putting him in time out, and making him 'apologize' to the child he hit when he comes out. And someday he will 'get it'. But for now, its like banging my head against the wall. Dylan was never a hitter, biter or pusher. He had to learn to share. But he was never aggressive like this. I can't take Logan out of playgroup. We can't just stay home and keep him away from other kids until this passes. He has to learn he can't behave this way. Fortunately the other moms at playgroup are very nice and understanding and supportive. But if this continues week after week, I'm sure they are going to tire of their child being beaten up by my child.
I have never felt so challenged as a parent as I do right now.
Monday, March 10, 2008
rock stars
Dylan saw the movie Underdog over the weekend, and there is a scene where Underdog sees a beautiful girl dog, and the song "Lady" by Styx comes on. So Dylan's been running around singing "Lady, when I'm with you I'm smiling....". He has always loved music, and his ability to remember song lyrics is pretty amazing. Since I can remember, he has been able to hear a song and pick out which individual instruments he can hear. He has pretty eclectic tastes too (thanks to Andrew) and some favorite bands include The Cult, White Stripes and Rush. I wonder if his love for music will continue through the years and what his first real concert will be? And if he'll call us at 2 a.m with some story about how bad traffic is, and he'll be home as soon as he can, but its all a lie to cover up the fact that his irresponsible drunk friend is puking on the side of the road... Ummmm, sorry, that was me! (Sorry, mom!!). Oh Dylan, you will not be able to get away with anything because I DID IT ALL! I'll be watching you!
Logan has discovered recently The Wiggles, and apparently he shares a similar passion for getting his groove on. He will bend over forwards and bounce his little butt up and down, or just start spinning in mad circles. Today at music class, he loved playing the instruments and interacting with the teacher. He is so social! Neither of our kids seem to be wallflowers, that's for sure.
Sunday, March 9, 2008
the five hour vacation
I chose to use it running errands that would otherwise be out of the question if I had the kids with me. Boy, you forget what its like to be alone in stores...no having to stop and look at the toy section, no pleas for candy, no rifling thru the diaper bag for an emergency fruit leather, no clock ticking to get you home before nap time. Pure bliss. That's when you know your life has changed - a trip alone to the Target and Borders qualifies as bliss. I finished up getting stuff for the kids' Easter baskets, taking my sweet time, and even treated myself to lunch at Pei Wei while luxuriosly reading my new (parenting) book.
I was excited to find this Easter Egg decorating kit that will come in handy in a couple of weeks.
For Logan's Easter basket, I got some great new lift the flap books by his favorite Karen Katz, including "No Hitting!" and "I Can Share". And I got Dylan the next level of Brain Quest cards for kindergarten age 5-6. He knows all of the answers to the 4-5 year old preschool ones we have already. He loves to do them before bedtime. He calls them his 'business cards'.
Stay tuned. Tomorrow will be a full day. Music class at the library, preschool and Brynn's birthday party!
Saturday, March 8, 2008
not as young as we used to be
Friday, March 7, 2008
only on his terms
Thursday, March 6, 2008
Decisions, decisions.
Would you rather...
....Always speak in rhyme - OR - never hear every third word spoken to you?
.....Be in a small pond with one alligator - OR - three dozen piranha?
....Have a panic attack while 75 feet up in a tree you've just climbed -OR- while swimming 100 yards out in the ocean?
.....Always be itchy -OR- always feel as if you have to pee?
.....Ride a roller coaster while hungover -OR- bungee jump during a bout of diarrhea?
Tough choices, I know! Think carefully.
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Tomorrow night, we are taking the kids here.
It just opened near us, and its a great concept - a place for families to be active and have fun together. They have a rock wall and an interactive 'fitness arcade' with lots of games to play, plus kick boxing, moonbounce obstacle course, and basketball. I'll try to get some good photos of the kids while we are there.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Wegman's, will you marry me?
On the ten minute drive home, Dylan managed to cover a number of subjects... first, he asked me why the sky was so bright blue today and who is in charge of that anyway? And also where do Santa's reindeer live? I wish I could live at the North Pole, he yearned. And also, I wish we could go to a farm today. You know, the one with all the ghost stalls, mommy.
Dylan's been inviting random people to his birthday party in April. Strange kids at the park, people we see at the store, basically whoever will listen to him for two seconds gets invited. At this rate we'd have to rent out RFK stadium to fit all the people he has invited. His party isn't until April 12th, and I showed him on the calendar how far away that is. But every single day he asks if TODAY is the day. And I say, not yet. And so he continues to invite more guests.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Zero
Dylan: "Mommy, how did I grow in your belly?"
Me (ugh): "Well....ummmmm......errrr.... You started off as a cell"
Dylan: "A cell? What does that mean?"
Me: "Well, cells are very tiny and they are how all life begins" (what the heck am I going to say if he asks what kind of cell?)
Dylan: thinking, thinking, thinking... "So then I grew into zero?"
Me: "Zero?"
Dylan: "Yea, zero. I was zero when I was born right?"
Me: "Yes, you were zero years old!" (whew, this isn't going to lead to any huge talks that I'm not ready to have yet!)
Dylan: "See! I told you I was zero!".
Monday, March 3, 2008
A Spring Tease...
There was some brotherly love...
And lots of smiles.
These boots were made for walking...
Sunday, March 2, 2008
told you so....
Technical Difficulties
It all began the week after Christmas when our laptop computer died. We've had a loaner laptop ever since, while shopping for our next one. During this time, I've totally slacked on taking photos of the kids. Boooooo to me. So now maybe, with this blog, I'll have even more inspiration to capture their sweet little faces during normal everyday life. Because there is nothing ever ordinary about life with a four and a one year old.